A female libido specialist helps women understand the root causes of their libido struggles such as low libido, no libido, low desire for sex, inability or struggle to arouse/orgasm, numbness or pain during sex, sexual partner incompatibility, sexual boredom or lack of sexual pleasure. Rather than focusing on surface level solutions, my work explores the connection between the female nervous system, trauma, safety, and unique workings of the female body. After all, we are very VERY different from men when it comes to sex.

By working together, I support you in reconnecting with your body, understanding your sexuality, and learning how to be friends with your libido naturally through safety, relaxation, and deeper connection to yourself. You can explore this work through my courses, coaching, or bodywork sessions.

Whether you’re working through low libido, disconnection, or simply want to feel more at home in your body — there is a path forward. You don’t have to figure it out alone.

I don’t believe in “shoulds”. What I do believe in is this – most of us never received a proper sex education. We were never taught the differences between men and women, how our bodies work differently, how to honour our libido, or how to understand the rhythms of the female sexual desire.

We grew up absorbing shame, fear, and performance-based ideas about sex. We learned to see sexuality through the lens of performative giving, not connection.

Some of us carry deep wounds—heartbreaks, betrayals, or trauma—that shut down our capacity to fully feel. Others use sex as a way to chase validation, affection, or a distorted version of love.

For many, sexuality is driven by fear, not freedom. Insecurity, not embodiment. Starvation, not joy. And at the root of it all? Most people have never asked themselves: What is the purpose of sex in my life?

With so much confusion, we imitate what we see: Hollywood scripts. Porn. Instagram sex tips. This is what I call conventionalsex. It’s disembodied. Disconnected. Performed. It lacks tenderness, slowness, presence, and truth.

No wonder so many women can’t orgasm. No wonder we “lose”our libido. No wonder we secretly resent sex.

The problem isn’t you. It’s the version of sex you’ve been taught to pursue. That’s what I’m here to help you with.

Here are a few things I help my female clients explore when it comes to their sexuality:

• Understand the root cause of your sex struggles
• Explore conditioning and beliefs around sex
• Navigate loss of sexual desire/libido
• Navigate through sexual boredom and/or starvation
• Overcome sexual pressure / freeing yourself from guilt
• Reconcile relational libido incompatibility
• Heal from years of unconscious sexual relating
• Step out of exhausting sexual performance
• Release physical symptoms of sexual stress/trauma
• Heal vaginal chronic pain/inflammation
• Learn how arousal works in a woman’s body/psyche
• Learn to pick worthy lovers/partners
• Become more present and relaxed during sex
• Integrate sexuality and motherhood
• Learn to orgasm during partner sex

Many women experience low libido in relationships, even when they deeply love their partner. This is because female desire is not just about attraction or love — it is a mirror of a woman’s life and is influenced by her sense of safety, stress, emotional connection, trauma, relationship dynamics, the nervous system & the woman’s lifestyle.

I teach this in detail in my famous online Honey Course. For example if your body and heart don’t feel safe or relaxed, desire and turn-on won’t flow naturally. This isn’t something to fix — it’s something to understand. When you work with your body/heart instead of against them, desire begins to return naturally.

Ah! I’ve created an entire course – the Honey Course – to answer this question!

If your body doesn’t feel fully safe, it won’t let go into deeper pleasure. Orgasm is not something you “do” — it’s something that happens when your body feels safe enough to open and receive. I dive into major detail in the course!

To increase libido naturally, you don’t need more stimulation, you need more safety – to understand what safety actually entails and how to create it in your life.

This is exactly what I teach inside my fundamental course on safety.

Improving your sex life starts with reconnecting to your body and heart. Most women will say that they are connection but it is not true. Most of us have been taught early on to perform in bed.

When you move away from performance and toward presence, everything shifts — your desire, your pleasure, and your connection. This work is about understanding yourself, not fixing yourself.

But in order to no longer perform and please the other, you’ve got to understand and create safety in your life.

I have yet to meet a woman who does not carry trauma in her body and nervous system. We are all wounded to some degree. Unresolved trauma/stress can show up in all kinds of ways in the bedroom:

• Bodily & vaginal numbness
• Discomfort or pain with penetration
• Vaginal “lockdown” – a vagina which refuses to open
• Clenched jaw, tight belly, shallow breathing, pelvic floor tension
• Low libido or sudden loss of it
• Inability to orgasm
• Inability to become aroused or sustain arousal during sex
• Sense of annoyance or fear when being touched
• Sense of distrust towards lovers
• Difficulty achieving orgasm
• Lack of lubrication
• Feeling less sensual, less creative, disconnected
• Menstrual, PMS and menopausal issues
• Cysts and growths and other reproductive ailments
• General feeling of overwhelm or disgust towards sex
• Attraction to emotionally unavailable or toxic partners
• Chronic people-pleasing
• Self-abandonment in relationships/sex
• Inability to feel safe and relaxed
• Hating sex or being touched

Yes — both obvious and subtle experiences can contribute to low libido in women. Trauma does not need to be sexual in nature in order to show up in the bedroom. Trauma (or stress) can be emotional, mental, physical, relational, financial, cultural, religious, intentional/unintentional, etc. Trauma can be a single event or chronic continuation of events.

Here are some unexpected roots of trauma in a woman’s life – emotionally immature parents; narcissistic abuse, divorce, illness or death of a family member, sibling competition or bullying, family negative outlooks on sex, conservative upbringing, years of pushing down your needs, neglect, rejection, early access to pornography or sexual content, feeling of not being good enough, chronic comparison, lack of emotional safety, etc. 

These experiences affect your nervous system and can show up as numbness, disconnection, difficulty orgasming, or choosing unavailable partners. Healing your sexuality means gently bringing safety back into your body.

The nervous system plays a central role in female arousal and desire. When your body is calm and regulated, it becomes more open to naturally flowing pleasure, sensation, and connection.

When your body is stressed or overwhelmed, it shifts into protection mode — which can block arousal, pleasure and orgasm. Learning how to feel safe in your body is one of the most powerful ways to improve your sex life. I help women do so during trauma-release bodywork sessions.

Yes — there are many powerful books on female sexuality, desire, and arousal that can help you understand your body on a deeper level.

If you want guidance and community while learning, my Between the Sheets Book Club is a beautiful place to start. We read, discuss, and apply these teachings to real life — so it’s not just information, but real transformation.

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